At your local fetish club, you’ll find a safe and friendly space to meet people with similar kinks to yours. You might only want to be in the same space as fellow fans of bondage, or rubber, or spanking, or cross-dressing, or fetish stuff in general. Just to chat and socialise – you may not feel the need to actually do anything physical with anyone at all. That’s fine.

Then again, you may want to to find someone to play with. The woman in the rubber catsuit and thigh boots might let you lick her heels. The handsome man in leather might order you over his knee, if you ask nicely. At your local fetish club, if you are polite and you behave like a nice person, this can happen to you. Go along a few times, make a few friends and – always – ask nicely… Continue reading Takedown at Extremm →

A hundred years ago, Skin Two Rubber Ball was the first and only big international fetish party. Hammersmith Palais was packed to capacity with pervs who’d flown from every corner of the world to be there. It was quite normal for guests to fly from Australia, Japan and all parts of the USA just to be there. On a Monday night, would you believe! We raised a ton of money for charity. There was a book. There was a film. It’s different now. Continue reading International Fetish Parties & German Fetish Ball →

Why is fetish clubbing so much better outside London, when everything else is so much worse?The fetish scene started in London, back in the ‘80s and the best thing about it was the camaraderie. The explosion of BDSM sex was pretty striking, no question, but my most powerful memories are of the good humoured mutual acceptance of subs, doms, trannies, bondage fans, gays, artists, feminists, academics, writers and rubberists. You’d see a dominatrix talking politics with a lesbian leatherbitch while a sociologist took notes and Mistress Clare tied Nigel to a chair in full rubber – all to the gentle thwack of leather paddles on bare backsides. Continue reading Why is fetish clubbing so much better outside London, when everything else is so much worse? →