Most people imagine that a dominatrix thrashes cringing submissive men with a whip. Hence the term “Miss Whiplash”. That’s the expression everyone immediately understands to mean a woman paid by men to dominate them. Whenever you see an image of a dominatrix used to promote a TV show or spice up a film poster, there’s the key visual of the whip, the riding crop or the swishy cane – and of course the thigh boots. When straight people discover that I’m involved in the world of SM and fetish, one of the first things they ask is why on earth do these weird men long to be beaten and hurt? Having experienced a thoroughly nasty third-rate English public school education, where young boys were caned until they cried, I also used to wonder why, for goodness sake, anyone would so badly want to be beaten that they would actually pay to have this done to them…
So, years later, when life’s path led me down a Soho alley into the glorious world of sexual depravity, it was a relief to discover that SM is not all about being beaten and hurt at all. In fact, most thrashings are theatrical – symbols of erotic submission, psychological tools – like the ritual behaviour, the candlelight, the atmospheric music and, most especially, the costumes.
These days, I count dominatrixes among my friends and I understand that the precious hour or so that the client spends with the professional dom is his blessed relief from the everyday world of cares and responsibilities. It’s his private garden, where he can enjoy his fantasies under the understanding supervision of the Goddess of his dreams, before emerging to face the world with a new spring in his step.
Recently, I’ve been taking the still photos for many of the SM films on the female domination website www.femdomfilms.com Nothing could illustrate better how many and varied are the paths that the submissive can take to find his particular nirvana. There are constant new films, featuring strapon, anal training, forced feminisation, slut training, slave training, forced masturbation, orgasm control, chastity, fem controlled bi, sissification, hypnosis, bondage, CP, spanking, cuckoldry, golden showers, double fem dom and more…
The dominatrixes featured in their films include Mistresses Alexandra, Antonia Parker, Claudia; Countess de Jager, Strapon Jane and Daisy Rock (who put a dildo gag on one of the slaves and made him give her multiple orgasms). You can see Mistress Rebekka Raynor in action at the Anal Academy, where males are subjected to strapon training.
So it’s not all beatings – not at all. There are many paths to heaven!
It must be said, though, that a very few people do enjoy being beaten. They love to drift away, feeling no pain – as the fakir feels no pain from the hot coals – thrilling to the swish of the cane, luxuriating in the ripples and waves of sensation. They love the preparation, the ritual, the afterglow. They love to see the stripes for days afterwards and they love the very special intimacy, the giving and receiving of trust. They are not hurt, not abused. (And they are not all male.) And these are my favourite people of all.
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